The Art of Receiving Love

Faith, Healing, Manifestation, People, People & Relationships, The Self

bouquetSometimes we let our need for labels limit how we live and experience love.

Shouldn’t it be enough that we are loved by each single creation in its/her/his own special way?

Let’s open ourselves to receive the kind of love we’re given. Give what we can in return as well.

Accept the love that is given to you, in whatever shape or form it appears. Temper your tendency to control it, to put a leash around it, to hang a name tag on it. Let it guide you in exploring yourself, in expanding your perspective on what is possible, on what is real.

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Break Down to Break Free

Faith, Life path, People, The Self

bouquetWhen it seems as though life wants to break us down – the truth is, life wants us to break free. To crack open. To release our grip from the edge. To let go of the only thing that has supported our existence so far – the illusion of control.

When it feels like life has grabbed all that’s left of us and we end up feeling powerless to stand up again and proceed – life is actually just teaching us how to trust, how to open our hearts fully and how to accept more help, more grace, more love.

A Love Note to the Wounded

Healing, Life path, People & Relationships, Personal Stories, The Self

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When you’re hurting, don’t cave inside yourself. Keep your heart open. Let love and light fill you in.

You’ll heal only in your vulnerability.

Let the Universe plant a seed where there’s a hole or a sore spot. Let that seed grow with you in light and love. Let it guide you towards the direction of your expansion and your highest joy. Let the plant, the tree keep you grounded.

Let it transform you. Let it reveal your inherent strength and beauty.

Integrate the pain and transmute it. Rise up.

Unwrap Your Presents

Faith, Manifestation, The Self

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flowersclareI had this epiphany one time when I was playing with my 6 year old poodle-terrier, Munchkin. Words cannot explain the feelings his presence stirs up in me. I know I love him because my heart expands even with just the thought of him. I am amazed by all that he is, how he behaves, how he lives his life and how he enjoys his surroundings.

To most people, he is just another dog. He can’t do much and he can even be annoying at times. All he wants to do is play. They dismiss him as something irrelevant, sometimes even less than an object. It’s as if he doesn’t even exist or as if he doesn’t have his own character.

But to me he is my angel. He is my ball of sunshine. The Universe has sent him to accompany me in this life journey. He grounds me. He reminds of who I really am and what life really is. He is consistent with his love for me and his lust for life. He embodies life in its rawest form – full of positivity and light.

It could be a dog like Munchkin, or it could be a plant, it could be a person, it could be a life situation, it could be a responsibility, it could be a challenge, it could be an opportunity, it could be a skill or a hobby, it could be a memory

…it could be anything, really, that can serve as love wrapped in a form of its own.

What makes us blessed is the act of unwrapping our present that’s already there, that’s always been there. In fact, we never run out of presents to open. 😉

Why do we Relapse?

Healing, The Self

upOkay, let’s say we get it right for a couple of days, for a few weeks, a few months and even a few years. Then at some point during our progress, we relapse, we go back to our old problematic situation – may it be a previous lifestyle, a disposition, relationships, habits, and just the very thing – anything – we have set our mind to get over with for good.

Why does this happen?

I know it’s frustrating and sometimes complex, but the answer can also be as simple as this:

Because we stop working on it.

Any kind of change worthy of our effort needs our dedication just like physical work out. We gotta do it regularly and even level up the intensity if we want to see progress. Our muscles get back to how they were or even in worse shape when we stop working out. We can’t just work out intensely for a few months and expect that it’s gonna do it for the rest of our lives. We need to be continuously on it, regardless if we’re in the mood or not for it, regardless if we feel like we’re getting back to how we were or not…yet. We usually stop when it either gets better or worse – and things are always gonna go either way, anyway.

Healthy habits have to be practiced consciously, consistently, especially when it’s difficult, since those times are probably when we are at our most vulnerable…to hit a wall or relapse.

Many of us think that we can just get over something for good.

Maybe scientifically, technically, yes, there are qualifiers and there is a need to do that as well. But not essentially. It’s a pretty subjective matter and things are open-ended until, well, we die. We just cannot get over our humanity until then. We are always subject to evolution.

Likewise, we may need to stamp on an issue for our own self-esteem and peace of mind, and that is certainly not a bad thing to do if doing so actually helps. However, for many of us, this only puts an intolerable pressure that backfires when we realize we can’t keep up with our own expectations. This only makes us more critical of ourselves and of others which can lead us into another (maybe worse) downward spiral.

What helped me with my struggle with chronic depression and my fears of relapsing (again) was accepting that it’s probably gonna be one of crosses until I die. I am probably more likely to be depressed because of how I am wired and there’s certainly nothing I can do to change that, and I wouldn’t want to, anyway. It’s only after being able to accept it that I felt powerful over it again.

It’s a struggle and also a beacon of light for me, guiding me on how I should be taking care of myself. It’s a constant reminder of all the healthy habits I should be embodying, not out of fear, but out of genuine self-awareness and self-love. It reminds me of how I won the battles of my life, which only proves how indestructible my spirit is, which only inspires me to move forward in my path.

Many times, I have wished, too, of a button that we could simply press to transform ourselves and our lives with for once and for all. But eventually I have realized what’s the point of life then if such a thing existed?

The narratives of our lives are about our struggles, transformations and triumphs. The Universe hopes that we learn to appreciate them more; to see them as beautiful and full of meaning – and to just. keep. going.

What I have learned about the process of Manifestation

Manifestation, The Self

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Manifestation is the externalization of our own process of mastering our power as co-creators. The attainment of goals and the creation of objects, relationships, events are definitely important with regards to the evolution of life.

However, there is something more important than all these material outcomes – Us.

How we grow as souls is the point of this entire experience of manifestation. We understand the laws of the Universe more, we understand ourselves more when we are in the process of creating outcomes. We learn more about motivation, focus, discernment, discipline, surrender and gratitude. We learn about clearing our blocks. We learn about forgiveness. We learn about letting go. We learn about taking chances, we learn about starting again, we learn about moving forward. We are able to deepen our connection with Spirit.

When we want to maneuver our lives into a different direction, when we want to materialize a major change or outcome, the first thing we need to do is to be clear with what we want.

We desire many things, and sometimes they’re in conflict with each other. Sometimes we get overwhelmed, too. We don’t always know how to prioritize.

One way to be clear with our course is by looking into our hearts and looking into our lives. When we take an honest look into our own life, we would sense the areas that are lighter, areas that seem to open up more or are already open for us to explore and develop. These are areas where we have more clarity on. It would be wise to focus on these things first instead of struggling with the others. Manifested outcomes develop in their own time.

It’s important not to get impatient, but learn how to be humble and surrender to divine timing. We must understand that divine timing is actually working for us and not against us.

It is making our journey lighter (less challenging but equally enlightening) and more enjoyable. The Universe doesn’t want us to suffer. We won’t suffer if we surrender.

The next thing we should do is to state what we want. Dream on! We should allow ourselves to want what we want. We should allow ourselves to relish the fullness of our desires.

After that comes the need to shift our attitude.

Instead of coming from a place of doubt, we should learn how to come from a place of faith and a sense of excitement. Instead of doubting each and every decision we make, we should have the openness to take chances and say “Yes”.

These yes-es will eventually lead us to the manifestation of our desire. It is important to keep our focus in the present so we don’t miss the signs and the clues given to us along the way. Oftentimes when we are so focused on the future outcomes that we get distracted, we lose the sharpness of our senses and we make decisions that are not in alignment with our truth.

While doing all of these, we gotta keep working on ourselves. We need all the energy that we have in manifesting a major change. Therefore, we gotta let go of each and every thing that does not support our development in the direction that we want.

Lastly, when we have manifested our desires, we gotta take the time to acknowledge it and savor it fully! We gotta reflect on the entire process, the things we have learned from it and how it has changed us.

We gotta regroup with our own spirit and all those who have helped us. We need to realize how everything is interrelated – how we are all taken care of.

We would know that the process of manifestation has come full circle once we find ourselves in a place of more faith and more openness to life, knowing that nothing is really impossible. The process of manifestation is more than just getting, it’s actually more about becoming.

Why I love the Yoga Tree pose

People & Relationships, The Self

It’s nice to have two legs. It’s nice to stand on two feet. Most probably, it’s better to have two legs and two feet instead of just one or maybe, let’s say, three.

It’s  important to have a strong support system. It’s true that we cannot live alone. It’s enriching to share our lives with others.

But growing also entails being able to stand alone, like standing on one foot.

Time will come that we would have to learn how to find our strength and balance in our own core.

Independence is necessary in establishing healthy relationships both towards oneself and others. It’s not always good – or even possible – to share everything with someone. A person can only share and take on so much- both the positive and the negative. Our relationships are alive, mutual and organic.

When I was younger, I used to feel compelled to share everything with my loved ones – my parents, close girl friends, my lover. I even thought it was healthy to do it at all times.

Yes, open communication is important to healthy relationships but not to the point that we’re stepping onto personal boundaries – both ours and those around us. I’ve come to realize that sharing too much could also lead to stunted personal and relationship growth.

I’ve become more private in celebrating my triumphs and grieving for my losses lately. This is not a sign of moving away from the people I love.

This is just my way of moving closer to my Higher, Wiser and more Powerful Self.

I need to do this to be more familiar with my own voice and to get better in trusting it. I need to learn how to trust my own wisdom and decisions, to shape my own opinions, to feel and express my own feelings without asking for external validation.

I must also learn how to give my relationships the space they need to breathe and thrive.

Our loved ones are not sponges. Our relationships are not dump sites.

Strength is both found and cultivated in openness and in silence, in complete sharing and independence. Both ways of relating are important in different situations.

I enjoy doing the yoga tree pose not really because of the challenge it brings but mostly because of the peace I get from being fully present in my own existence – knowing that I am enough as long as I stand from the core of my being.