The Art of Receiving Love

Faith, Healing, Manifestation, People, People & Relationships, The Self

bouquetSometimes we let our need for labels limit how we live and experience love.

Shouldn’t it be enough that we are loved by each single creation in its/her/his own special way?

Let’s open ourselves to receive the kind of love we’re given. Give what we can in return as well.

Accept the love that is given to you, in whatever shape or form it appears. Temper your tendency to control it, to put a leash around it, to hang a name tag on it. Let it guide you in exploring yourself, in expanding your perspective on what is possible, on what is real.

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Agents of Tenderness

Faith, Life path, Life's Work, Spirituality, The Self

stressLife can get tough, but the Universe doesn’t leave us alone in our journey. The Universe understands that while we need to go through our own path to learn what we set out to learn and accomplish, we also need not forget who we really are.

In my life, I’ve always had those beings who remind of me of my natural tenderness – humans, animals, nature,. Tthey hold my hand, smile at me, persistently ask me to play and have fun, to sit and relax, to listen to my heart. Many times, I’ve learned to build up a shell around my heart as a way of protecting myself, and many times when the need for it subsides, these beings always do their work of breaking it up either piece-by-piece or  in one blow.

It took a while for me to connect the dots and see the meaning in these relationships, and the presence of these beings in my life. Many times I’ve thought how undeserving I was of their love. But maybe, my human mind just can’t fathom the unconditionality of pure love. And maybe we are also part of this pure love even though it’s difficult to feel that way in our human form with all our complexities and struggles.

Nevertheless I am thankful beyond words can express. The Universe has always been unfailing in sending me all the help and love that I need.

Our Heart is a Portal

Life path, Manifestation, Spirituality, The Self

catIt depends on our commitment
to expand our capacity to feel
how the world unfolds.

Richness surrounds us, and can never contain itself
we just need to open ourselves fully
to participate in this spontaneous
yet orchestrated overflow.

 

*An ode to my feisty, tender feline friend, Cool-aid; who has melted my heart back to its normal state. She reminded me that we only really have what’s in our heart. The rest are illusory.

We’re created out of Love, to Love

Faith, Life path, Manifestation, The Self

lake2I don’t think Source brought all things to existence merely to know itself and expand. *As I was stroking my furry bestfriend’s head, Munchkin, I knew that Source created everything ultimately because of love.

No, not to learn how to love itself, neither to love out of generosity. But to love that which is a part of itself but also outside of itself. To love without purpose other than the experience of loving. To experience love in its many different forms. To deepen our capacity for love.

Because having the opportunity to love is worth creating universes/multiverses for. It’s so good there’s nothing like it. It’s worth going through eternity for.

*I wrote this post with Munchkin beside me 🙂

Break Down to Break Free

Faith, Life path, People, The Self

bouquetWhen it seems as though life wants to break us down – the truth is, life wants us to break free. To crack open. To release our grip from the edge. To let go of the only thing that has supported our existence so far – the illusion of control.

When it feels like life has grabbed all that’s left of us and we end up feeling powerless to stand up again and proceed – life is actually just teaching us how to trust, how to open our hearts fully and how to accept more help, more grace, more love.

Cheers to the Crazy Ones

Life's Work, Manifestation, The Self

inhaleExcluding mental illness, if you haven’t been obsessed with anything, you haven’t found something to really care about yet.

If you haven’t felt anguish just with the thought of failing at something, you haven’t really loved yet.

Only the crazy ones are capable of lifting something that matters off the ground. Only the crazy ones have ever done it.

Only the crazy ones extend the limits of their humanity. Only the crazy ones transform the essence of their divinity.

Only those who are crazy enough to create or dismantle the world order have pushed/are pushing this planet forward. If you haven’t been part of the crazy ones you haven’t fully lived.

 

A Moment in Eternity

Faith, Life path, The Self

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Life only matters because of death. 

One has to go through death first to be with eternity. 

We only savor what we have because we can lose it; because we know how it’s like to live without it.

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We should ponder over death more often. In fact, it should be a part of our daily routine. Not out of anxiety or drama but out of self-awareness and a deep connection with our inner and outer landscapes.

What’s the meaning of our life without the inevitability of death? Why would it matter that we are here if we’ve always been here and always will be? If there are no risks to the chances we take? If there are no costs to loving all that we do?

Will fleeting moments remain special? Would it still matter if we choose to show up or not, if we give our best?

 

Transitions. Liberation.

Authenticity, Faith, Healing, Life path, Manifestation, The Self

Circumstances don’t change. It’s us who do.

upCircumstances remain the same because all probabilities co-exist at the same time – what could happen already has, already is. Our focus determines which reality we experience. Pivot a bit in a different direction and our whole perspective changes. It could even feel like a completely different world at times.

When we feel like circumstances have changed it’s because we have changed.

It’s the will and the effort that we’ve put onto ourselves that transform our life.

 

What’s your Self-Love Story?

Healing, People & Relationships, The Self

couple2For those in a relationship: If I ask you “What’s the greatest challenge you have overcame or are going through now with your life partner?” and “Is there any pattern you have noticed in all your intimate relationships so far? If yes, what is it?” What answers jumped off the bat?

Like any unhealed wound, a part of yourself is in need of healing and it will come through in all ways that might get your attention.

It can manifest through a pattern in a relationship, something that gets you stuck in a loop of some sort – acting out similar situations with similar people.

To me the greatest challenge I have had peace with was my fear of abandonment. Like most stubborn fears, it’s rooted in childhood. I grew up with an emotionally (and physically for the most part, too) unavailable father. My parents were in a codependent marriage. My mother felt abandoned and unloved for the majority of their relationship. I am the eldest, too, which has put me in a position to experience the emotional chaos firsthand. My parents had me when they were in their early 20’s. They were basically kids, themselves, who were forced to grow up.

I had a series of relationships during my twenties with guys who were unavailable, too, in all sorts of ways. It almost always ended up with me getting hurt, feeling guilty and embarrassed. After so many “second” chances I had been given and I had taken to start again and make things right – I finally did it. I took a good look at myself, gave my full love and attention to the unhealed child in me, and ended up the long cycle of abandonment that I was trapped in.

Little did I know that it was just the beginning of healing.

What happened next was one of the most beautiful things that happened in my life – my relationship with my current partner. It’s not a coincidence that the love of my life happens to be from another continent, 15 hours away by plane from me. Almost everyone I know didn’t believe in long-distance relationships. To them it never works and never will.  We’re on our third year together this year and we’ve known each other for four – and we’re just getting started 😉

This is the second volume of my healing. By being in a long-distance relationship I was able to make further peace with my fear of abandonment. I was able to ace the challenge of growing together with my partner in a loving and intimate relationship despite being geographically separated. We’d only see each other anytime between four and eight months at a time, and we have the six to seven hour time difference on a daily basis.

Like any kind of healing, this has caused me to be grounded again, to feel more supported again not only by a partner but by life itself – and not only by life itself, but above all by ME.

I felt abandoned for so long because the painful truth was – I’ve abandoned myself over and over again by making decisions not out of self-love but out of self-lack. I simply repeated patterns I grew up with instead of making conscious, empowered choices.

Isn’t it sweet how all our challenges – especially the most stubborn ones – lead to the same thing? Deep, juicy, bottomless, nourishing Self-Love.

What’s your self-love story? 🙂