Stalemate Sucks

Life path, People & Relationships, The Self

pillowsThis triggers me so badly – when one chooses to be stuck over courageously moving forward. I believe life is too short to be complicated by our own indecisiveness – putting things off, refusing to confront the truth, refusing to take accountability for our decisions. I believe life is just too short to not commit, to not follow through, to not choose what we want at any given moment.

Just fucking choose. Don’t waste your life sitting on the fence.

There are no right or wrong choices when you are doing what feels right for you. And what feels right can sometimes feel scary, uncertain, lonely. But still nothing is more miserable than being stuck because you’re so fucking coward to make a choice for yourself (I told you it’s one of my pet peeves).

Just fucking choose and get it over with.

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Because we are all Creators

Life path, Life's Work, Manifestation, People, Spirituality, The Self

selfWe only fail at the goals we set. We only get punished by the rules we create.

There’s no external force that is judging us and holding us accountable for our actions. Heaven or hell are not places we go to in the afterlife – they are two extreme states of being within ourselves, of relating with ourselves.

We can either feel attuned to who we really are or totally disconnected. We only either feel proud of how we live up according to our standards or feel disappointed by how we’re unable to be who we say we wanna be, who we say we are.

The only question that matters is: Were you Brave?

Faith, Life path, People, The Self

diveWe can’t always be certain which is the right thing to do – if by right means getting the outcome that we desire.

But we can always be brave if we choose to. Brave to feel our own emotions, brave to admit the truth, brave to trust, brave to follow where our spirit is leading us into, brave to fight and persevere, brave to go beyond the limits we’re used to and brave to create new rules to live by.

Doing the brave thing may not always be the right thing to do – if by right means getting the outcome that we desire. But I can’t remember anything I made out of bravery that I end up regretting. Maybe it’s not doing the right thing, but doing the brave thing, that has only enabled us to break through. Maybe the rest doesn’t matter after all.

The Go-Getter Mindset

Creative Living, Life path, Life's Work, Manifestation, People & Relationships, The Self

lizmayvWhen you believe something is missing or needs to change – opt for the better way; don’t resort to complaining and feeling helpless – get started and do something about it. This may not entirely address the situation, but it’s a way to start the momentum in the direction you want it to go.

If you’re in the right place, with the right people, at the right time, and if your concerns make sense – your efforts will be met with support. If not then maybe it’s not the right time yet or maybe it’s better for you to simply move on.  Your brilliance and sincerity are better spent somewhere else.

No one will hand you want you want. Big girl, you gotta go get it.

 

How to Simplify your Life 101

The Self

 

blackyellow1.Make your mind serve you. 

Overthinking is not the only culprit. How we think can also weigh us down. Self-loathing thoughts are a waste of time and energy – they don’t add value to our life, they don’t assist us with our goals and they even suck our spirits out.

2.Stragetize (don’t worry)

You have limited energy and time to think. Use them wisely. Instead of wasting them on worrying, utilize them in working on a strategy that is reasonable and relevant.

3.Focus on what truly matters to you. 

Only go for the things that move you forward in the direction you want to go. Stop doing things, attending events, that don’t add value to your life.

4. Make up your mind about pending matters. Resolve things as quickly as possible.

Don’t let these concerns squat in your mind and energy. They will diminish your brain power while not contributing anything.

Confront the truth as fast as you can and do something about it that will bring back your peace and power. Likewise, admit if something is beyond your bandwidth at the moment. Choose to let it go.

5.Get rid of things you don’t want to use anymore.

Throw out/give away clothes, things you’ve outgrown. Don’t let them eat up all the space that can be occupied by things that are relevant to you now. Things that excite you now, things that complement who you are right now.

6.Prioritize clarity and comfort.

Wear clothing that allows you freedom to be yourself and freedom to move how you want to. Pace yourself at work (I’ll be writing about this on a separate post pretty soon!). Clarify expectations in your relationships.

Don’t allow yourself to be distracted with things that you can actually do something about.

7. Ask for what you need and when you need it. Be as clear as possible in your request/s.

Learn how to be accountable for meeting your needs and asking for help when you have to. Give others a fair chance in meeting you halfway. Choose peace of mind by being transparent in a grown-up way.

8. Schedule everything!

This matters not only so we won’t forget to do what we are supposed to do but because plotting to-do’s in the calendar also provides us with clarity and fulfillment. It shows us which plans and target outcomes are possible and which are not. It gives us the confidence to follow-through our plan – and be in each moment fully.

9.Don’t do what you don’t have to do.

It sounds silly to say it because it’s so obvious yet it has to be mentioned. Many of us do things we actually can do without out of obligation or unhealthy habits.

10.Get clear  with your boundaries, at least with yourself.

You can’t always explain yourself to others and you don’t always have to. Boundaries are mostly for your benefit since they remind  you where you stand vis-a-vis your highest benefit. Having clear boundaries will make it easier for you to make decisions, including difficult ones.

Say No: Be a Catalyst

Authenticity, Life path, Manifestation, People & Relationships, The Self

Some things only become possible once we’re able to end others first.

lizmayvilleSometimes we need to step on the brakes. To walk out. Quit. Give it all up. Change our mind. Decide to go our own way even if we have to do it alone.

This starts with confronting the truth that we are simply not happy where are and where we are heading.

Even if everything else seems to be going well. The people around us are content. Even if we initially got what we’ve previously wanted.

When our spirit calls for us to go on a different direction, or even just to take a pause, we must step up to it. It probably is the time to regroup, to revisit our truths and reframe our intentions.

Likewise, the situation may be ripe for something new to be born, something many have been wanting, too. Maybe we’re simply being asked to play the role of a catalyst.

The Way to Live

Authenticity, Career, Life path, Life's Work, Manifestation, The Self

anyway

upI caught myself singing this line over and over again this morning. I didn’t even know what song it was or if it even existed to begin with (eventually I googled and found out there’s an actual song by Journey).

I’ve been getting really fired up in finding out the reason why I feel as if I am being redirected to a particular career path. I’ve not only been stressing myself over the reason but also on how to set goals for myself this time so as not to squander this opportunity and all the abundance it will bring. To my dismay, I couldn’t get the answer despite my efforts to “open” myself to it. All I felt was uncertainty – and panic.

This line of the song just answered the puzzle for me. It’s not unusual for me to get guidance from songs I randomly sing. It’s one of my subconscious’ ways of answering my questions. It made me realize that the reason why I couldn’t seem to answer my questions was because the questions themselves were not suitable for me.

I’ve been imposing on myself a particular approach that I’ve seen on others which may or may not have worked for them – having a list of goals they want to accomplish and coming up with a plan on how to achieve them. Pretty straight forward, a mainstream way of going about life.

I, on the other hand, do not subscribe to this approach at this point in my life. I did in the past and maybe I’ll do it again someday. But right now, what I truly feel is the most authentic way for me to live is to be present from moment to moment. What I’ll do next depends on what I am inspired to do in the next moment. I’ll figure it out as long as I am able to fully ground myself in the present. What I’ll do in each moment will have an impact – short term or long term, I won’t even know, but it will surely take me on a certain direction. It will surely lead me to accomplish things, to grow in a certain way, to create, to materialize things I desire, to make an impact bigger than my singular life.

In this approach, I don’t need to know all the details and I don’t need to come up with a list of goals to live a full life. In this approach, my dynamic list of values and principles is enough. My life will unfold on its own beautiful and unique way.

Any way we want to live our lives, that’s the way we need it – and that’s definitely the way to do it. It will continuously evolve so we must remain open to it.

This answer has brought peace to my heart. In case you’re bothered, I hope you find clarity and peace to yours, too. 🙂

You are not lost. We are not lost.

Creative Living, Faith, Life path, Life's Work, Manifestation, The Self

lureYou may be confused at the moment. You may be in a foggy part of your path. You may be feeling lonely, probably you’re running out of faith in your tank, too. While I won’t pretend to know how exactly you must be feeling and what exactly you’re going through, ’cause I acknowledge the realness that each of our journey is unique, I want to extend my empathy and  best wishes to you as a kindred spirit.

Many people have accused me of not knowing what I really wanted with regards to my career and life path. Many people have withheld trust from me because of this perception. Many people belittled me. It went on for so long to the point that I started believing them.

But in the middle of my recent retreat, when the fog started to dissipate and I could have some clarity again, a knowing just sprouted out, like a tiny mouse that has been hiding simply to protect herself from the momentary chaos around her. I knew then with full certainty that it was not true that I didn’t know what I wanted. It was not true that I was intrinsically confused. And in fact, it was not true that those people who have accused me of not knowing what I wanted really believed in that –

They knew very well that I knew what I wanted but that it was simply not what I was pursuing.

Of course, they didn’t have any idea what it was that I wanted, but they’re pretty sure that it was not what they were offering me. They didn’t know why I was not pursuing what I wanted but surely, they’ve got all the reasons to not wanna work with me. My mind was somewhere else. That’s why they rejected me.

My issue was not the not-knowing but the suppressing of my own desires in the first place because I thought they’re too big, too impossible, too far for me to reach. So I put my focus on other things, I reached for the low-hanging fruits instead.

I was playing small. I didn’t even dare speak nor write about my desires. I simply let them float like clouds above my head as I walk through life half-awake.

There was no blueprint that I could use, no map to lead my way, no one I personally knew I could ask for guidance – these were the reasons why I refused to pursue my own path, refused to even own it to begin with.

You might be on the same boat and these might be some of your reasons, too. Yes, we may have forgotten what it was we were truthfully passionate about after pursuing something we have merely settled for, but I dare you to look inside yourself and realize that you know you are not confused. In fact, you very well know what’s gonna make you happy and what’s gonna enable you to live your life to the fullest. Maybe the answers are not what you expect from yourself, maybe they’re not what the people around you expect from you.

But this is the truth we all have to confront – that we won’t ever be able to pivot in the right direction if we don’t own these answers. We can’t move through the path of joy and fulfillment if we judge our own desires to begin with, if we feel unworthy of them, if we think they’re ridiculous or impossible.

We have to stop looking outside of ourselves for validation. We need to avoid comparing our dreams with those around us, or even with the people we look up to.

Each of us has a unique path of becoming. It is both our right and responsibility to claim it – to take it.

The path will unfold and our steps will be lighted once we say yes to it. All the other possible paths collapse through the power of our focus. It will be a path of uncertainty, exactly because it’s a new path – it’s ours alone. There will be ups and downs and bumps along the way like any trail of adventure, but each stone, each broken branch, each puddle of mud will only take us closer to where we wanna be. Even though we’re not there yet and it may take a while we can always rest in the knowing that we are not lost and our efforts are worthwhile.

 

An Ode to Free Will

Faith, Healing, Meditation/Visions, The Self

fernwaterThe force which allows us to have infinite power and freedom through our sheer free will, regardless of our faith or even the lack thereof,

The force which honors the inherent power and freedom that we have all inside, that is our divine right, something that have always existed beyond time,

Is absolutely not evil.

Is something that can be trusted.

Is something that deserves our unshakable, unwavering eternal devotion.

Evil is controlling and possessive. It is rooted on fear and lack. It doesn’t see anyone. It doesn’t trust anyone. The emptiness in its core is unfathomable.

But this force that is the complete opposite of evil shines so brightly that it’s even able to shine over the darkest depths where evil resides. For evil is the mere absence of light; where doors are shut and fists are clenched. Where separation breeds and expands.

Nothing is innately good or bad, because free will exists. We are the secret ingredient that brings meaning to any situation. The meaning we create brings all things to life.

We are the factor that matters. We are the only thing that prevails. Appearances may change, may mutate, may dissipate – but we remain steadfast in our evolution.

The gift of free will does not exist as a tool for self-flagellation. The Divine didn’t intend to berate us and humiliate us, and put the weight of the world on our shoulders. Free will is meant to simply make us…free – it’s that simple. It’s a reminder that we always have the power that we need at any given moment, regardless of how situations look like on the surface, regardless if we find ourselves alone or if we’ve got company.

Free will reminds us, unfailingly, of our divine essence. That we are all equal and we come from the same Source.

Free will is meant to be our compass, it’s meant to guide us back to our home which is Joy and Oneness.

May we all see the grace that free will is, and use it to heal and expand the world as we know it.