How would we learn how to master them if we always keep ourselves at a certain distance?
Why would we even need to learn how to temper them if we haven’t been in any of their extremes?
If everything happens as expected, how can we learn to be unconditionally calm and balanced?
We don’t usually even need to stop them from consuming us. They usually come to pass on their own. While we’re internally forever changed, but better anchored on who we are.
Sometimes we let our need for labels limit how we live and experience love.
Shouldn’t it be enough that we are loved by each single creation in its/her/his own special way?
Let’s open ourselves to receive the kind of love we’re given. Give what we can in return as well.
Accept the love that is given to you, in whatever shape or form it appears. Temper your tendency to control it, to put a leash around it, to hang a name tag on it. Let it guide you in exploring yourself, in expanding your perspective on what is possible, on what is real.
We only fail at the goals we set. We only get punished by the rules we create.
There’s no external force that is judging us and holding us accountable for our actions. Heaven or hell are not places we go to in the afterlife – they are two extreme states of being within ourselves, of relating with ourselves.
We can either feel attuned to who we really are or totally disconnected. We only either feel proud of how we live up according to our standards or feel disappointed by how we’re unable to be who we say we wanna be, who we say we are.
“Is it true that life is a mirror and everything around me is just a reflection of me?”, I asked in my meditation this morning.
As usual, animal spirit guides would appear and have the most profound conversations with me. This time it was a white female wolf who answered my inquiry. She said,
“That’s true – but only partly true. I ask you, if there is a mirror in front of you but you choose not to look, would you still see your reflection? Does the type of mirror affect how you see yourself? Let’s say you choose to look at a mirror which reflects an angle of your face or your body that you don’t like, won’t this make you conclude that you’re ultimately unlikable and generally unattractive?
This is a world of mirrors, yes, but not all are created equal. You must use your own power of discernment. There are no right or wrong mirrors to look at. But there is one thing that determines whether this world of mirrors serves you or not – Intention.
Your intention determines whether you choose to look at a mirror or not, your intention determines which mirrors to look at, your intention determines which parts of yourself you want to shed a light on and magnify.
This is not to immerse yourself in self-denial at the expense of your own growth. But to use the power of focus to grow that which is life-affirming and noteworthy in yourself, in your life.
Why choose to look at a distorted, or worse, a broken mirror?”
We should give our best not because everything equally matters individually and collectively.
What matters in the face of life, in the face of death – is that we show up fully in each given moment – to who we have become, but more importantly to who we claim ourselves to be.
All our hard work, efficiency, brilliance, ingenuity won’t mean anything if what we do doesn’t bring out our most authentic selves, doesn’t bring us closer to each other and doesn’t make us feel more at home, more grounded where we are.
At the end of the day it’s all about connection.
When it seems as though life wants to break us down – the truth is, life wants us to break free. To crack open. To release our grip from the edge. To let go of the only thing that has supported our existence so far – the illusion of control.
When it feels like life has grabbed all that’s left of us and we end up feeling powerless to stand up again and proceed – life is actually just teaching us how to trust, how to open our hearts fully and how to accept more help, more grace, more love.
We can’t always be certain which is the right thing to do – if by right means getting the outcome that we desire.
But we can always be brave if we choose to. Brave to feel our own emotions, brave to admit the truth, brave to trust, brave to follow where our spirit is leading us into, brave to fight and persevere, brave to go beyond the limits we’re used to and brave to create new rules to live by.
Doing the brave thing may not always be the right thing to do – if by right means getting the outcome that we desire. But I can’t remember anything I made out of bravery that I end up regretting. Maybe it’s not doing the right thing, but doing the brave thing, that has only enabled us to break through. Maybe the rest doesn’t matter after all.
I didn’t always believe in second chances. I’d rather work on something new than go back and fix, what to me, was broken.
Three recent instances have taught me otherwise. Needless to say, I’ve been reluctant in all.
The only thing that has made me reconsider my point of view was – Sincerity.
The other parties’ sincerity opened up my mind into taking another look at how things have played out which has led to my decision to end things. It enabled me to think what’s possible if things were different, if we were different, or if we choose to try again.
I said yes to these second chances with open eyes and a more open heart – fully understanding what’s at stake and what could go wrong – again. It feels like walking on eggshells on some days and free-diving on others; it’s both limiting and liberating.
I deem these three things worthy of second chances, despite the effort I have to put into them and the leaps in consciousness I have to take, because in the undercurrent I sense a tenderness – life’s way of offering me the chance to forgive and trust again on a whole new level.