The only way we can finally clear whatever is blocking us is by taking a leap of faith to try again – to run the risk of getting hurt again.
The only way we can finally heal ourselves is by having the courage to get back up
and begin again.
Try again. Open yourself up for rejection again.
That’s how one fully gets over past hurts that have blocked one’s heart.
Healing isn’t dependent on someone else’s acceptance of you.
Healing is dependent on your decision to believe and hope again.
That’s the only way you’ll know your heart is back on fire.
Each person, each relationship, each interaction we have in our daily life is meant to help us become more fully ourselves – including, and most especially the ones that are not particularly in our liking.
Notice that when we encounter someone we feel even a slight annoyance to, that we automatically bring out a part of ourselves we don’t always embody. When we get triggered by an interaction/a person, doesn’t it feel like alarm bells are ringing, alerting us to a part of ourselves that need our attention?
It could be an aspect of ourselves that needs healing or unconditional acceptance – or it could be a part of ourselves that we need to bring out more often. We need these relationships as mirrors to show us what needs balancing within us.
Maybe if you had a more competent boss, maybe you wouldn’t even have discovered that you’ve got leadership qualities simply because there won’t be a need for them. Maybe if your parents were not that authoritative, maybe you wouldn’t have learned how to set healthy boundaries and stand up for yourself. Maybe if you never experienced being in a codependent relationship, maybe you wouldn’t have learned who you really are and how to truly love yourself.
We help each other become more authentic and more mature without even knowing it.
Nothing would make a person standout more (at least for me) than the full ownership of one’s decisions and actions – especially when they result to unforeseen, undesirable consequences.
Nothing makes me more proud to be a human being than to see another human embrace the fullness of their magnificence and weakness at the same time. That emits an other-wordly level of awareness of the self and its connection to everything else. That shows boundless power – the kind that doesn’t get intimidated by humility and surrender.
That shit’s sexy. Very sexy.
Holding a space for someone to unravel is such a privilege.
We do this for each other without knowing it. It’s that honorable time in our life when we are not asked to do anything but to stand strong in our power and hold the cup of our overflowing love for someone who needs it – so they can go down on their knees, break down and surrender. We are neither asked to take the punches for them nor to come up with creative solutions. Our role, in fact, is to NOT interfere, to let them go through this on their own – because they need this fight to learn and grow, to let go of everything that doesn’t reflect who they really are and who they wanna be.
We serve as their witness, as they go through this sacred transformation. We uphold their cup of love for them until they’re ready to take it back
and give it a home again.
This triggers me so badly – when one chooses to be stuck over courageously moving forward. I believe life is too short to be complicated by our own indecisiveness – putting things off, refusing to confront the truth, refusing to take accountability for our decisions. I believe life is just too short to not commit, to not follow through, to not choose what we want at any given moment.
Just fucking choose. Don’t waste your life sitting on the fence.
There are no right or wrong choices when you are doing what feels right for you. And what feels right can sometimes feel scary, uncertain, lonely. But still nothing is more miserable than being stuck because you’re so fucking coward to make a choice for yourself (I told you it’s one of my pet peeves).
Just fucking choose and get it over with.
How would we learn how to master them if we always keep ourselves at a certain distance?
Why would we even need to learn how to temper them if we haven’t been in any of their extremes?
If everything happens as expected, how can we learn to be unconditionally calm and balanced?
We don’t usually even need to stop them from consuming us. They usually come to pass on their own. While we’re internally forever changed, but better anchored on who we are.
Sometimes we let our need for labels limit how we live and experience love.
Shouldn’t it be enough that we are loved by each single creation in its/her/his own special way?
Let’s open ourselves to receive the kind of love we’re given. Give what we can in return as well.
Accept the love that is given to you, in whatever shape or form it appears. Temper your tendency to control it, to put a leash around it, to hang a name tag on it. Let it guide you in exploring yourself, in expanding your perspective on what is possible, on what is real.
“We accept the love we think we deserve”, says the famous quote.
I say, “We shape the ones we love. We ochestrate how we are loved.”
I think this is more accurate. We are more powerful than we claim ourselves to be.
“Is it true that life is a mirror and everything around me is just a reflection of me?”, I asked in my meditation this morning.
As usual, animal spirit guides would appear and have the most profound conversations with me. This time it was a white female wolf who answered my inquiry. She said,
“That’s true – but only partly true. I ask you, if there is a mirror in front of you but you choose not to look, would you still see your reflection? Does the type of mirror affect how you see yourself? Let’s say you choose to look at a mirror which reflects an angle of your face or your body that you don’t like, won’t this make you conclude that you’re ultimately unlikable and generally unattractive?
This is a world of mirrors, yes, but not all are created equal. You must use your own power of discernment. There are no right or wrong mirrors to look at. But there is one thing that determines whether this world of mirrors serves you or not – Intention.
Your intention determines whether you choose to look at a mirror or not, your intention determines which mirrors to look at, your intention determines which parts of yourself you want to shed a light on and magnify.
This is not to immerse yourself in self-denial at the expense of your own growth. But to use the power of focus to grow that which is life-affirming and noteworthy in yourself, in your life.
Why choose to look at a distorted, or worse, a broken mirror?”
We should give our best not because everything equally matters individually and collectively.
What matters in the face of life, in the face of death – is that we show up fully in each given moment – to who we have become, but more importantly to who we claim ourselves to be.