How to Prevent Burn-Out? Hit “Pause”

Career, Life path, Life's Work, The Self

Once you stop to breathe and unload – all the creative solutions and all the help that you need arise to the surface like magic.

solitudeI have a tendency to burn myself out, and I believe anybody who cares enough about something has a tendency to lose herself/himself in it. I have such a huge propensity towards burning out that I have been clinically depressed once because of it.

I’ve learned about self-care since then, but time and time again, I still struggle with remembering and/or finding new approaches on how not to go there again. Lately I found myself more stressed out than usual, not yet to the brink of burn-out but, my self-awareness has enabled me to spot the early signs. I didn’t know what to do; I didn’t know how to keep myself from going into that familiar downward spiral.

Until I made the decision to hit “Pause”. Until I decided to take a full day’s rest.

I took a nap. I spent my time on play and creativity, meaning, doing things that free my mind and nourish my spirit. I set the intention to put my to-dos backstage. I knew they could wait. I knew my well-being mattered more.

That one day of rest did serve me and the people I care about. My 2-week old cough subsided. I spent quality time with my family (including my pets of course!) again. I finally got to enjoy my alone time again. I felt satisfied. My weekend has been full and energizing.

I was also in a better mood when I got back to work. I didn’t feel the usual tendency to push myself to do more and cramp as many things as possible in one day. Instead, I intentionally identified my priorities. I structured my tasks in a way that won’t end up depleting my energy and creativity.

There are many articles and books dedicated on how to avoid and how to recover from burn-out due to work and any other demanding aspect of life. But based on my personal experiences, none of those would make a difference if we don’t take the action that matters the most – that is, to hit “Pause” to breathe, to unload, to intentionally meet our own needs, to honor our own pace. Again, creative solutions and all the help that we need arise to the surface once we do. I hope that you find the strength and courage to hit “Pause”, too. ❤

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Cheers to the Crazy Ones

Life's Work, Manifestation, The Self

inhaleExcluding mental illness, if you haven’t been obsessed with anything, you haven’t found something to really care about yet.

If you haven’t felt anguish just with the thought of failing at something, you haven’t really loved yet.

Only the crazy ones are capable of lifting something that matters off the ground. Only the crazy ones have ever done it.

Only the crazy ones extend the limits of their humanity. Only the crazy ones transform the essence of their divinity.

Only those who are crazy enough to create or dismantle the world order have pushed/are pushing this planet forward. If you haven’t been part of the crazy ones you haven’t fully lived.

 

Why Others’ Autonomy is Dependent on Ours

Life path, Life's Work, The Self

dancingWe can’t assist others in finding their own strength if we never let go of their hand, if we never give them the chance to take the risk to fall down and get back up – do it all again until they figure it out.

We’re not helping others in cultivating trust in life and in themselves if we never leave them alone in their path; if we always string them along ours or if we keep on making decisions for them.

We can’t teach others how to be autonomous in their own life by not being autonomous in ours first.

Most of the time, the best that we can do to help those in need of assistance is to actually get so focused on our own path that we’ve got no time to enable others in their small-mindedness. Let life be our teacher; let our higher self be our champion.

You have nothing to lose

Faith, Life path, Life's Work, The Self

freshYou are gonna die someday.

In the face of death I bet you won’t give a damn about the superficial stuff. I bet what’s gonna grab your attention by the neck is how you can maximize all the time that’s left. I bet you’d scramble stretching what little chance you still have to engage with the things that matter the most to you.

I bet you’d drop your pretenses, finally, and open yourself wide to reveal the fullness of who you are. You are light.

So what if you get rejected – for speaking up, for standing up for what you believe in, for going after your dreams? So what if you make mistakes as you figure things out – isn’t it the point of living, to learn and grow? So what if people mock you for seizing the moments you’re given to step into your own greatness and unleash life’s abundance through you – who’s loss is that?

All these things that preoccupy you are merely distractions. Don’t let them dim your light. All this clinging on the status quo and being a slave of fear will not take you where you wanna be.

Step into the open. Leap into the night. Confront your own light.

Release your courage by confronting the truth – you have nothing to lose.

Own Your Space

Life path, Life's Work, Manifestation, The Self

diveYou’ve been given a space in this world – no matter how small it may seem to be. You’ve been given the ability to express yourself, to contribute and live to the fullness of who you are.

Own that space. Seize the chances you’re given.

Be shameless. Be here. Fully. Unapologetic and free. Create and deliver.

You matter because you are here.

 

 

The Prize of Authenticity

Life path, Life's Work, Manifestation, The Self

blackbgThe price of Authenticity is unpopular choices, conscious letting go of opportunities and relationships, ridicule, temporary loneliness.

The prize of Authenticity is the sweetness of confidence that rises up from the core of one’s being – as a result of all the points intersecting; the culmination of one’s inner and outer worlds.

It unlocks a certain flavor of happiness that expands what is, to unlimited what-could-be’s.

 

 

The Go-Getter Mindset

Creative Living, Life path, Life's Work, Manifestation, People & Relationships, The Self

lizmayvWhen you believe something is missing or needs to change – opt for the better way; don’t resort to complaining and feeling helpless – get started and do something about it. This may not entirely address the situation, but it’s a way to start the momentum in the direction you want it to go.

If you’re in the right place, with the right people, at the right time, and if your concerns make sense – your efforts will be met with support. If not then maybe it’s not the right time yet or maybe it’s better for you to simply move on.  Your brilliance and sincerity are better spent somewhere else.

No one will hand you want you want. Big girl, you gotta go get it.

 

Walking through Fire

Life path, Life's Work, The Self

upWe go through challenging situations either or both because of these two things:

One – There’s a joyful and abundant outcome on the other side of the fence once we get past it.

Two – These are the things that we need to experience in order to grow. These situations will bring out aspects of ourselves that maybe we didn’t even knew we had.

When the first one doesn’t seem clear enough to you, pay attention to the second. When you reach that point where you’re asking what’s the point of going through a difficult period – maybe the point is You. Maybe you are being chiseled into who you really are.

Priorities

Career, Life's Work, Manifestation, People & Relationships, The Self

yellowbrownWe can strive to have what we’ve conceptualized as “work-life balance” or we can raise the bar in choosing which causes, career opportunities, activities and relationships to engage with. Then limiting the time we allot to work becomes secondary since the things we choose to invest on are in alignment with what nourishes us and the things and relationships that matter to us.

 

 

 

 

A Leap in Perspective

Authenticity, Career, Creative Living, Healing, Life path, Life's Work, People & Relationships, The Self

needleplantI used to think that the only way I could fully live a spiritual life and be in an ecosystem of inspiring one another was by somehow working in the healing/intuitive arts. Lately though, probably as part of my spiritual progression, I’ve learned that –

1. If that is true, then that is very limiting. Not everyone is in or even comes close to the vicinity of healing/intuitive arts. How can we reach those/everybody if we just stay there? I don’t think the Universe is designed to be that way. If anything, we should spread out, expand ourselves, immerse ourselves in unfamiliar situations, engage with people who are different from us in some ways. In the process, learn, grow, be more integrated.

2. We are, by default, living spiritual lives because we are spiritual/energetic beings having a physical experience. We CANNOT NOT be spiritual.

3. Where else is best to live this so called full spiritual life other than where we already are doing what we already do?

Now I think that the goal is actually not to be a healer/a guide/a mentor/or just a spiritual person by profession or by being validated by a particular organization or institution, but to be all these things and so much more simply by choosing to embrace our truest self, our essence – which is love and light – and to show up in the world everyday embodying these where we are and with whoever we interact with.

We have all been touched by “common” people in profound ways;

be it a hairstylist who has shown us great love and compassion when we’re heartbroken, a stranger in the bus who radiated joy and kindness when we felt hopeless towards life, a family member who offered us advice we needed at that time, a colleague who we never thought of as a friend but who suddenly got our back during one of our personal storms, a deceased artist whose works have inspired us to take risks and go for our dreams.

To others, we have played these roles, too, without us knowing about it. We’ll never fully know the mark we leave on each other.

We gotta check in with ourselves. If our inquiry and path naturally leads us to the healing/intuitive arts then great and that will surely benefit all of us. If not, we must have the faith that probably where we are right now is where we can best grow and be of service to others.