Because by writing them down you’re bringing them to Life

Career, Manifestation, People & Relationships, The Self

Things I want to manifest at this point in my journey:

a.) A place where I can thrive. Somewhere I can be authentic. Where I can express my natural gifts and fulfill my purpose everyday. Where I am supported and valued for who I am and where I can give back in ways that nourish me, too.

b.) Living consciously from the inside-out. Embracing my sensitivity, which means not being the first person (nor the last) to censor my vulnerability, rather use it as my well of wisdom which it actually is after all. Letting my heart finally lead the way I live – the things and people I surround myself with, how I spend my time and which paths I take.

c.) Letting my inner child live through who I am and who I am becoming – all creativity, imagination, playtime, silliness and just being absolutely uninhibited.

 

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5 Questions to ask yourself if you want more clarity about your Life Purpose

Career, Life path, The Self

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I have read countless articles and watched videos on finding my life purpose. I’ve taken notes of some questions that might help and answered them as best as I can. I’ve done my best many times to follow through the tips I got from various writers and life coaches. Not all of the tips and questions worked for me. Each of us go through our unique journey and what have worked for some may not work for others.

Here is my version of that list of tips/questions. These have been working well for me – so far. ūüėÄ Hope this helps.

1. What excites you?

This would probably be the most cliche of all my points. I think it helps because it serves us a warm-up. Asking yourself this question is like testing the waters. Scan your past experiences and look for clues to your behavior.

In which situations were you mostly present – engaged? What brings out your creative ideas? What makes you come out of your shell and participate? What do you look forward to? If it’s up to you, how do you usually spend your time?

There should be a sense being pulled into a certain direction – which is different from the sensation of being pushed.

When we feel pulled into something, it feels light and a nudge is enough to get us in. A push is on the opposite end of the pole. It’s mostly about things we/others think we have to like/do. There is no chemistry. There is no sense of curiosity, fun nor adventure. We may be good at these things but they don’t give us joy or it could also be that we are getting more stress than fun from them. Observe yourself and pay attention to that “pull”.

2. What drives you to be a better version of yourself?

Which types of information are you personally hungry for? What encourages you to stretch your limits and go beyond your comfort zone? What motivates you to learn and grow? In which areas do you want to be better at?

If it’s up to you, what kinds of books/films/TV shows do you usually read/watch? Which kinds of feedback/rewards are the most fulfilling for you? Which topics do you like talking about?

3.¬†What burns you out? What irritates you?¬†What brings out the “hulk” in you?

The things that trip us off can also give us clues to our calling.

I believe that life purpose is not only about the things we naturally like or the things we are good at. In our purpose lies the things we are mostly struggling with as well – because they contain the life lessons we need to learn and integrate in ourselves at this point in our spiritual evolution.

Do rigid schedules burn you out? Do you have little tolerance for authoritative bosses? Do you dread having to speak with customers? Does wearing a corporate attire make you feel confident? Do you look forward to frequent business travels?

Look back into your past jobs, relationships, travels and past time activities. Eventually you’ll see a pattern there. Connect the dots to see the bigger picture.

4. How would you like to serve and make the world a better place?

It sounds cheesy, I know. But I believe that inside all of us lies the desire and need to be relevant and to fulfill our place in the world. The process of satisfying our purpose can only be completed once we have served a need that is higher than us.

We don’t even need to stress about it and squeeze ourselves into cookie-cutter careers in the name of service. If we’re already doing the thing that brings us joy and helps us grow – for sure we’re already serving/fulfilling a need in our own unique way.

Our passion acts as an invitation for us to participate in world-creation and advancement.

We just have to keep on engaging with it and follow its guidance on what to do next or which way to go.

5. What are you curious about?

This would be the last item on my least because a.) It may not help but may only confuse most people and b.) I would use this technique in either a more practical setting (e.g. if you’re thinking of shifting your career path) or if you wish bring some zest back into your life (e.g. discovering a new field of interest).

My career journey is partly about following my curiosity. I’ve changed my path a few times to the point that it feels like I have lived many lives in just one lifetime (and I am only in my 3rd decade). There is no harm to it if you maintain your focus and pursue just one thing (or a couple of things) at a time. This is to make sure that you go through the entire process until you reach its natural conclusion. By this time for sure you’d have learned something meaningful about yourself and the nature of life. You also get better at new things.

Following your curiosity can be tricky because it’s subtle and it leads you to a path of uncertainty. It would be easier if you just take your pick in the beginning and follow it down the road, right? Following your curiosity is the opposite.

It’s not composed of one straight road but of a series of road each branching out in multiple directions again and again. Following this path would require you to make pivotal decisions every now and then. It means that you have to keep your faith and guts and be more self-aware as you move along.

Curiosity also speaks to us in a whisper or even just a nudge. It almost never grabs us by the hand or shouts into our ear, commanding us to check something out. It’s subtle like our spirit – subtle but solid.

Try this technique. Pay attention to this nudge and follow its guidance. It may lead you closer to that pot path of fulfillment.

I would love to know as well what has worked for you when it comes to finding you life purpose. ūüôā

Cheers to an Open Secret

Career, Creative Living, The Self

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When somebody gets credit for something exceptional, we’re all wowed and we couldn’t believe how they could achieve something so well despite their apparent humanity.

What we don’t see are the innumerable hours they’ve spent practicing – and failing. Failing hard. Failing and taking the real blows. The rest of us only witness the glorious outcomes.

I want to make a virtual toast to those hours spent – grinding it out, pulling ourselves together, pushing ourselves forward, standing tall, trying and trying until we get it right – until we get better.

Those are the holiest hours. We are transformed during those moments.

We’re all being chiseled in the fire. We must relish those moments, too, for we won’t be able to handle the successes in store for us, without first becoming the person this process is gonna turn us into.

The mission to find Our Mission

Career, Life path, The Self

I have recently decided to go back in the process of identifying what I really liked to do; what gives me fulfillment and meaning.

While the cliche, “follow your passion” has probably helped many people, finding what that passion is to begin with is a rocky road journey in itself.

Many of us are in this rocky road for years, and ¬†I have been in mine for decades. This (soon-to-be-over) decade of my life has been shaped by countless crazy twists and turns in my path, simply because I didn’t know what kind of work I would be genuinely happy with. It was not completely bad after all, though; I’ve experienced various kinds of work situations and have acquired many transferable skills. But while these jobs got me interested in the beginning, I was never really happy. I never really valued what I was doing. I knew I could do my jobs well but they didn’t matter to me on a personal level. That’s the reason why I could leave them easily and move on from one job to the next.

As I was watching a video of Serena Dyer being interviewed on YouTube¬†talking about how she started to find her passion, I had a “eureka moment”. While Serena effortlessly identified that she loved telling stories, I also candidly realized that I liked comforting other people.

And that was it.

I felt like something clicked inside me and little fairy dusts came out after: COMFORTING PEOPLE. COMFORTING. COMFORT.

The feeling was not like an explosion. It felt more like release.

Then more realizations, more confirmations came to me in retrospect. Two situations stood out:

1. I remember when I volunteered at¬†a local daycare center on the first day of class, when of course, most kids usually cry the entire time. I naturally assumed the role of comforting them and stopping them¬†from crying since the teacher’s hands were already full. Surprisingly, I did it so well and so effortlessly that even my mom was impressed (she was with my youngest brother attending the class as well). I remember how I felt while I was doing it. I felt light and I was having fun. I liked seeing their sad and anxious faces break into smiles and even laughter.
2.One day as my partner and I were lying in our bed, I randomly posed a question: If you would want to try out a job just because you’re curious about it and at the same time you think you would like it as well, what would that job be? My partner said that he would like to produce TV commercials, while I said that I would like any of those jobs where I would be able to comfort women in very private situations like hair waxing, hair cutting and styling, cosmetic surgeries and the likes.

I have always found comfort in strangers during those kinds of¬†situations. It’s not a small thing to entrust your well-being and health to someone you really don’t know (having your bikini-line waxed by a complete stranger? really no small deal!) The mere fact that they can put me at ease and treat me so well were such a huge thing for me. There was even a time when a hairstylist’s assistant was oblivious to the fact that she’s just comforted me during that difficult time when I was going through a recent breakup. She simply talked to me about the usual mundane things and held my hair gently – but it made me felt loved and taken care of. A little act of kindness goes a long way especially for people who feel vulnerable.

Looking back, I don’t think I would have been able to identify this because I have always had many other points of interests. But they don’t really last. They don’t really nourish my spirit.

I believe that each of us would only find genuine soul-level fulfillment in doing something in the service of others. The good feelings they will get because of what we do will reflect on us and in turn, feed our spirit. Everybody wins. Everybody gets served.

I feel more confident now to move forward in my path. I’m gonna use this realization as my compass in finding the right career.

How about you? What’s your story? How were you able to identify what will bring you fulfillment in life?

To my friend who wants to know

Career, Creative Living, People & Relationships, The Self

To my friend who wants to know how I usually end up loving what I’m doing, my answer is simple:

Be present and give all you can give to the task at hand. Dig deep until it fully opens up to you as well. See the wonder and beauty that’s inside. We can ALWAYS find something to love about anything if we really will ourselves to.

Of course this advice is only applicable to those situations where we don’t have a choice yet to do something else or to do what we want (perhaps, we don’t know what it is we want yet). This is also applicable to those people who always want to be somewhere else, never fully present in the Now. If we always want to be somewhere else, doing something else, we would never be at peace because we don’t take the opportunity to fully realize the gifts of each moment.

Being alive is doing what we love. To do what we love we must be totally present. Being totally present means living absolutely.