Overthinking is not the only culprit. How we think can also weigh us down. Self-loathing thoughts are a waste of time and energy – they don’t add value to our life, they don’t assist us with our goals and they even suck our spirits out.
2.Stragetize (don’t worry)
You have limited energy and time to think. Use them wisely. Instead of wasting them on worrying, utilize them in working on a strategy that is reasonable and relevant.
3.Focus on what truly matters to you.
Only go for the things that move you forward in the direction you want to go. Stop doing things, attending events, that don’t add value to your life.
4. Make up your mind about pending matters. Resolve things as quickly as possible.
Don’t let these concerns squat in your mind and energy. They will diminish your brain power while not contributing anything.
Confront the truth as fast as you can and do something about it that will bring back your peace and power. Likewise, admit if something is beyond your bandwidth at the moment. Choose to let it go.
5.Get rid of things you don’t want to use anymore.
Throw out/give away clothes, things you’ve outgrown. Don’t let them eat up all the space that can be occupied by things that are relevant to you now. Things that excite you now, things that complement who you are right now.
6.Prioritize clarity and comfort.
Wear clothing that allows you freedom to be yourself and freedom to move how you want to. Pace yourself at work (I’ll be writing about this on a separate post pretty soon!). Clarify expectations in your relationships.
Don’t allow yourself to be distracted with things that you can actually do something about.
7. Ask for what you need and when you need it. Be as clear as possible in your request/s.
Learn how to be accountable for meeting your needs and asking for help when you have to. Give others a fair chance in meeting you halfway. Choose peace of mind by being transparent in a grown-up way.
8. Schedule everything!
This matters not only so we won’t forget to do what we are supposed to do but because plotting to-do’s in the calendar also provides us with clarity and fulfillment. It shows us which plans and target outcomes are possible and which are not. It gives us the confidence to follow-through our plan – and be in each moment fully.
9.Don’t do what you don’t have to do.
It sounds silly to say it because it’s so obvious yet it has to be mentioned. Many of us do things we actually can do without out of obligation or unhealthy habits.
10.Get clear with your boundaries, at least with yourself.
You can’t always explain yourself to others and you don’t always have to. Boundaries are mostly for your benefit since they remind you where you stand vis-a-vis your highest benefit. Having clear boundaries will make it easier for you to make decisions, including difficult ones.