In the recent years, looking back, I noted that I was able to have/create what I really wanted not by actively pursuing them, but by giving them up.
It’s counter-intuitive, I know, but the lesson I get is always simple and always the same: When you honor your values, when you don’t settle for less than what you know you deserve, when you choose yourself, the Universe lights up and aligns everything in your favor.
The first time it happened, I could literally feel my angels and guides partying and showering me with kudos. Learning the most important lesson of self-worth and self-love is a triumph for everyone.
Since then that’s how I knew that if something’s making me feel like I had to choose between myself and that thing/relationship, that’s when I should let it go. It will find its way back to me if it’s meant for me at the right time, in the right circumstances, if not it will completely fade away from my life experience.
This happens because the manifestations of our desires are always secondary, what matters the most is our well-being, our joy and our expansion.