5 Questions to ask yourself if you want more clarity about your Life Purpose

Career, Life path, The Self

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I have read countless articles and watched videos on finding my life purpose. I’ve taken notes of some questions that might help and answered them as best as I can. I’ve done my best many times to follow through the tips I got from various writers and life coaches. Not all of the tips and questions worked for me. Each of us go through our unique journey and what have worked for some may not work for others.

Here is my version of that list of tips/questions. These have been working well for me – so far. 😀 Hope this helps.

1. What excites you?

This would probably be the most cliche of all my points. I think it helps because it serves us a warm-up. Asking yourself this question is like testing the waters. Scan your past experiences and look for clues to your behavior.

In which situations were you mostly present – engaged? What brings out your creative ideas? What makes you come out of your shell and participate? What do you look forward to? If it’s up to you, how do you usually spend your time?

There should be a sense being pulled into a certain direction – which is different from the sensation of being pushed.

When we feel pulled into something, it feels light and a nudge is enough to get us in. A push is on the opposite end of the pole. It’s mostly about things we/others think we have to like/do. There is no chemistry. There is no sense of curiosity, fun nor adventure. We may be good at these things but they don’t give us joy or it could also be that we are getting more stress than fun from them. Observe yourself and pay attention to that “pull”.

2. What drives you to be a better version of yourself?

Which types of information are you personally hungry for? What encourages you to stretch your limits and go beyond your comfort zone? What motivates you to learn and grow? In which areas do you want to be better at?

If it’s up to you, what kinds of books/films/TV shows do you usually read/watch? Which kinds of feedback/rewards are the most fulfilling for you? Which topics do you like talking about?

3. What burns you out? What irritates you? What brings out the “hulk” in you?

The things that trip us off can also give us clues to our calling.

I believe that life purpose is not only about the things we naturally like or the things we are good at. In our purpose lies the things we are mostly struggling with as well – because they contain the life lessons we need to learn and integrate in ourselves at this point in our spiritual evolution.

Do rigid schedules burn you out? Do you have little tolerance for authoritative bosses? Do you dread having to speak with customers? Does wearing a corporate attire make you feel confident? Do you look forward to frequent business travels?

Look back into your past jobs, relationships, travels and past time activities. Eventually you’ll see a pattern there. Connect the dots to see the bigger picture.

4. How would you like to serve and make the world a better place?

It sounds cheesy, I know. But I believe that inside all of us lies the desire and need to be relevant and to fulfill our place in the world. The process of satisfying our purpose can only be completed once we have served a need that is higher than us.

We don’t even need to stress about it and squeeze ourselves into cookie-cutter careers in the name of service. If we’re already doing the thing that brings us joy and helps us grow – for sure we’re already serving/fulfilling a need in our own unique way.

Our passion acts as an invitation for us to participate in world-creation and advancement.

We just have to keep on engaging with it and follow its guidance on what to do next or which way to go.

5. What are you curious about?

This would be the last item on my least because a.) It may not help but may only confuse most people and b.) I would use this technique in either a more practical setting (e.g. if you’re thinking of shifting your career path) or if you wish bring some zest back into your life (e.g. discovering a new field of interest).

My career journey is partly about following my curiosity. I’ve changed my path a few times to the point that it feels like I have lived many lives in just one lifetime (and I am only in my 3rd decade). There is no harm to it if you maintain your focus and pursue just one thing (or a couple of things) at a time. This is to make sure that you go through the entire process until you reach its natural conclusion. By this time for sure you’d have learned something meaningful about yourself and the nature of life. You also get better at new things.

Following your curiosity can be tricky because it’s subtle and it leads you to a path of uncertainty. It would be easier if you just take your pick in the beginning and follow it down the road, right? Following your curiosity is the opposite.

It’s not composed of one straight road but of a series of road each branching out in multiple directions again and again. Following this path would require you to make pivotal decisions every now and then. It means that you have to keep your faith and guts and be more self-aware as you move along.

Curiosity also speaks to us in a whisper or even just a nudge. It almost never grabs us by the hand or shouts into our ear, commanding us to check something out. It’s subtle like our spirit – subtle but solid.

Try this technique. Pay attention to this nudge and follow its guidance. It may lead you closer to that pot path of fulfillment.

I would love to know as well what has worked for you when it comes to finding you life purpose. 🙂

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QNA Wednesday

The Self

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The one dream you have that you just can’t stop thinking about

Just one? Can I have at least three?

Become a mural artist. Travel the world. Be a caretaker in an animal shelter or a wildlife reserve.

The biggest way you’ve changed in the past year

I’m more open to abundance now.

Three rules you try to live by

Let authenticity and joy be your compass. Don’t lose your childlike sense of play and wonder. Use self-awareness as a superpower.

A list of things you love about this season of your life

Tough self-confrontations are teaching me how to be grounded. The time to work-out and grow stronger. Spending lovely times with my dogs. Enjoying quality and fun conversations with my boyfriend. Healing in our family.

A list of your favorite books and why you love them

Out by Natsuo Kirino, The Girl with the Dragon Tattoo series by Stieg Larsson, In the Time of the Butterflies by Julia Alvarez, Gone Girl by Julian Flynn, Prozac Nation by Elizabeth Wurtzel, Quiet by Susan Cain, Big Magic by Elizabeth Gilbert, Bata, Bata, Paano Ka Ginawa by Lualhati Bautista, A Great Love by Alexandra Kollontai, Water by Bapsi Sidhwa – they are about kick-ass women who defy stereotypes and/or are written by kick-ass women. They go against the grain and are well-written.

Your bad habits

I’m a binge eater and I crave for refined carbs. I judge myself and others easily – all the time. I can be manic when it comes to work and productivity.

A tradition you want to have with your own family.

A round-table session where we criticize ourselves and each other openly and regularly.

One way you’d like to grow in the next year

I’d like to stick to the basics – Act normally in most social situations.

A project you’re working on

Sculpting the abs of my dreams

A skill you wanna learn

How to be funny

How you think you’re making the world a better place

By reinventing myself over and over again – showing others it’s possible and even beneficial

Questions from The Girl Who Loved to Write.

The blueprint of our Journey

Life path, Manifestation, The Self

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This may sound insane, but I believe that we actually create the situations we come across – especially the most challenging ones.

Overcoming those challenges equals our spiritual growth. It means leveling up our game. In a way, it certifies us for more success and joy as well.

I know it would be a struggle to do it right during those times when we feel miserable and exhausted. But just to help ourselves without beating ourselves – we can take a glimpse of all the awesomeness that is to come out of whatever it is we are struggling with. This can provide us with an expanded perspective and may lighten our load.

Looking back into my journey, it makes sense now that I’ve actually summoned those experiences – especially the pitfalls and uphills. I needed those challenges to become who I wanted to be on a soul level. I need those challenges to unlock the life experiences I wanna have and to attract the kinds of people I wanna be connected with.

Likewise, by looking back into my recent challenges and successes I can somehow predict now what my next challenges are gonna be. For instance, I’m aware that I have this habit of walking out of situations when things get tough. Until now I still believe that I was right in doing so. Those situations were toxic in ways that didn’t match my strength. But I am also aware that I could’ve stepped out in ways that are more mature and diplomatic. I know sooner or later that I would have to learn how to stay and be assertive – how to argue and how to fight.

I also know that by the time I’m able to level up and grow – I know that it’s also because it’ll be worth it.

If you look carefully into your past, could you see some meaning there? Are you able to sense the blueprint of how your path will unfold? Coming from where you are right now, do you have a knowing regards to where you are headed? How do you feel about it?

 

 

Our Personal Best

Life path, The Self

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I like this concept in sports of recording and celebrating one’s personal best/personal record. I think we should adapt this to our everyday lives as well.

Modern societies are structured in such a way that there will always be comparisons and competitions. The rewards can be both tempting and fulfilling. But this has its own pros and cons as we know them. Either way it’s a stressful situation to be in ’cause everything’s shifting all the time. Someone or something better will always come by.

However, measuring our progress through our personal best could serve as our buffer and guide.

Society may point out where we are in the game and value us accordingly – but we can find our unique value by looking into our own journey.

Each of us experiences life in a special way – even situations that are apparently similar.

Adapting this measure won’t only protect us from the damages of comparison and external judgment, it will also motivate us to be more reflective and self-aware – therefore enabling us to become more of who we wanna be and to correct our course to the direction we truly wanna go.

Independence is Self-Care

People & Relationships, The Self

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Everyone of us should have some kind of outlet – something that helps in cleansing our thoughts and emotions on a regular basis. I used to always have at least one girlfriend who I shared everything with. Surely, it was helpful and fun especially when you’re young. However, there came a time when I couldn’t dive into my own thoughts and feelings anymore on my own ’cause I got so dependent on doing it with another person.

It’s almost been a while since I’ve stopped being dependent on someone else in processing my thoughts and emotions. Now I have my spirituality, my writing, my visual art and my workout as my buddies.

I talk about everything under the sun with my significant other but it doesn’t mean I can just dump him all the nitty-gritty parts like I used to do with my girlfriends way back. I know better now. Humans can only take so much. We have to find other ways to express ourselves and support ourselves especially during rough times. It’s also part of our growth – we become more self-aware and resilient by knowing how to go through this on our own.