Authenticity and Happiness

Authenticity, The Self

The truth of the matter is –

You will never be happy in any situation if you cannot express the full authenticity of who you are.

undress…if the people around you are expecting you to be someone else, if what you are doing is not in alignment with what matters to you and what brings you joy, if your time is being consumed by things that don’t support you in the direction you want to go.

Like me, many of us had to learn this lesson the hard way. Even the best opportunities (on the surface) could in reality limit us from being who we really are. Therefore it becomes imperative to walk away. Believe that the Universe is abundance and that you will get what is more suitable to you once you let go of what doesn’t support your authentic spirit.

I’m still in the midst of this journey and I haven’t found my next stop yet – but each day I am learning that what I did was the right thing to do at that time and my reasons were enough. I gotta stop berating myself for my decisions. All is well.


Reframing The Question

Life path, The Self

lake2Instead of asking ourselves “Am I living the life that I truly desire/ Am I living life to the fullest?” maybe a better question to ask is –

In what ways am I giving glory to Source/God through the life I’m co-creating?

The latter has less ego and is more purpose-centric. It’s not limited by the cookie-cutter measures we impose on ourselves and each other. It’s focused on something higher and bigger than us. It’s concerned with giving back and celebrating life. It’s more profound and comprehensive.

Posing this question towards myself has made me confront things that while true, have been difficult for me to accept. I’ve realized that despite society’s expectations (which become mine as well), my life is primarily about defining, re-shaping and celebrating freedom in my own ways.

I guess this is my way of giving back to Source – exploring the dimensions of freedom and become a wiser and more responsible person in the process.

Knowing the answer to this question gives us more reasons to be compassionate with ourselves and with each other.

Try asking yourself the same question and be enlightened by the answer/s you’ll get. 🙂

It deserves its cliche status – Health is Wealth

Health, The Self

needleplantWhile descending the Lion Rock peak in Hong Kong, and in between gasps for breath I’ve realized the truth of the cliche – Health is wealth.

I’ve always taken it for granted that I’m healthy and fit. I used to think that other things would make me feel wealthier or happier. But without these I won’t be able to experience many amazing things like climbing mountain tops (which makes very happy). I’ve got no idea what other unhealthy people would give just to do what I can do.

It’s a liberating and grounding feeling. As I continued to descend I thanked my senses and body parts one by one for working perfectly and helping me make my way to the top and back down again. This realization has given me more motivation to keep up with my healthy diet and regular workout routine.

Finally, Release

Healing, People & Relationships, The Self


diveMost of the time the pivotal moments in our life happen in solitude.

Just yesterday while I was folding fresh clothes, I got at text message from my father – nothing extraordinary, he’s simply asking me about the recent HK trip I had with my boyfriend. For some reason this gesture has touched me in ways that I guess, were already tender in me. I started sobbing as I thought –

I have to change. I have to forgive. I have to be open.

And while I was pertaining primarily to him, it also applied to other areas and people in my life in which I have blocked myself off.

Despite everything that has happened in the family, and between him and I as a parent and child, he never ceased to be consistent in reaching out to me, asking me about my life and how I am. Probably some people would take this for granted since that’s what fathers do, anyway. I don’t. He remained humble, brave enough to face us with all his mistakes and stay with us determined to remain the responsible father we’ve always known. He remained loving in his own ways. On the other hand, there were times when I blocked him off and judged him just like that. He never behaved that way towards me.

He was understanding, grounded, loving when I wasn’t. For these reasons alone he deserves to be a father – and I want to remain his daughter.

Now I understand what spiritual teachings say about the importance of forgiveness in manifesting our desires. When we haven’t forgiven someone, including ourselves, the flow of abundance in our lives is blocked. We don’t trust the opportunities and genuine people around us. We become reserved, hiding inside ourselves, protecting ourselves from getting hurt again.

For years I have known that I had to forgive my father, that my anger wasn’t serving me anymore – but only from a theoretical perspective. I’ve resolved to forgive and even planned my way through it. Well, it didn’t work that way for me. Now that the realization came from my soul – I feel as though I don’t even have to strategize how I am gonna do it.

The mere realization that I needed to forgive was the act of forgiving in itself.

Incredible how life works.

Most of us are chasing after things that we suppose matter more – but the gem of living is really found in these personal, spiritual breakthroughs and milestones.

Waking Life

The Self

confusedI woke up from a compelling dream this morning. I was in the middle of doing something very engaging and important for me in that dream. I was in what looked like an assembly line of a factory. However, upon waking up I’ve realized that I was, in fact, doing something which didn’t make sense. I didn’t wanna wake up from that dream ’cause I didn’t want to drop whatever I was doing.

Upon waking up, I’ve realized that in our waking lives we are doing and valuing many things that would probably not make any sense when we wake up from this slumber of the physical life and go back to our natural spiritual selves.

Amidst the business of our daily life, we should take the time to pause and take a look at the things we prioritize. Are we spending our time on things that truly matter for our spirit? Are we living each day, progressing towards a life of fulfillment or a life filled with regrets?