Sometimes the only way to teach others about asserting for their own needs is to assert our own needs first. I know, it’s not always easy. It sucks. It can make you feel shitty.
But I guess, self-determination, since it’s also about separation, has to hurt for some time. Otherwise, it’s not real.
I can forgive myself or someone for a wrong doing without having to accept it. Forgiveness is about accepting the fact that as humans, we don’t know everything and making mistakes is just a part of our nature, too. It’s letting go of the weight of feeling angry, frustrated or disappointed. It doesn’t mean, though, that we’re gonna accept and understand it once it happens again.
Forgiveness is not a permission for future wrong doings, especially, of the same ones.