Activities · Self

Send an SOS to the Universe, for anything, anytime

It’s easy to be cranky and hurtful when we’re overwhelmed. During these times we feel like saying “No” is not an option and we want to act as if we’re in autopilot, never stopping until tasks are all completed (which never happens, of course) or until we drop dead (which we don’t really think is possible but of course it is).

Aside from the fact that we have to take an honest look at our lives and learn how to set healthy boundaries, we must not forget that we can always request for any kind of assistance from the Universe (if not directly from the people around us, although that should be a part of the process, definitely).

During my busiest weeks recently, in the middle of feeling overwhelmed and just being physically and mentally tired, I found myself telling the Universe:

I trust you that by co-creating these awesome opportunities and relationships with me, which have already manifested in my life, you’re not gonna drive me crazy and make me do things that would result in me losing everything that mattered to me, everything that I have co-created with you.

I know, I know, it sounded harsh. It sounded like I was just bitching at/blaming/threatening the Universe (I was kind of LOL). But what I was really doing there was shifting my attitude from a place of panic and lost of faith to a place of trusting the Universe while I could not (cannot ever) be in control of everything. It’s also my way of setting boundaries and letting the Universe know that other matters have to be taken care of for me. Other people in the picture should have to step up and take responsibility/adjust for me because I have already reached my limits.

You know what? The Universe instantly responded. It always does. I didn’t even have to directly ask certain people to do certain things for me, they just automatically did. Suddenly I could take breaks and I had time for myself to focus on what’s important to me alone. People also became more considerate of me. They noticed how overwhelmed and tired I was.

So I’m telling you, friends, you don’t have to suck it all up and go on autopilot. You’re not a machine and even machines break down. You have a direct line to the divine. Go and quickly ask for anything you need, anytime.

Activities · Self

Healing ourselves

I haven’t written in a while. My life’s been a whirlwind lately since I started working in a new start-up company. I have been learning everything by doing; I have been traveling and meeting new people as well. In addition to my already demanding work schedule, certain personal things came up as well, stuff regarding my family, in particular.

In the midst of all these, I found myself suddenly complaining about a lower back pain that won’t go away for weeks. At first I supposed it was mostly due to sitting all day at work. I then started using the standing desk more but still the pain persisted.

My intuition told me it could probably because I was having issues related to my root chakra. I have found out that the root chakra was about feelings of security and stability. Once we’re imbalanced in those areas, we would inevitably have issues with our root chakra/lower back region.

I immediately did a chakra balancing meditation, with emphasis on my root chakra. As always when I’m doing chakra balancing meditations/healings, it was intense and my body would produce this uncontrollable movements that lasted for a few minutes.

I thought that would immediately solve my problem. It didn’t.

It kept on for a couple of weeks more. Until finally just this week, it stopped.

Now, I’m wondering what exactly have I done to stop the pain. Nothing has changed with my routines or my work place. To be honest, the answer didn’t intuitively come to me. But somehow I think I was able to make some concrete actions/decisions recently which enabled me to bring my energy balance back.

Probably, because I was able to create healthy boundaries again (at work and in my personal life). I was able to shift my attitude from worrying and feeling helpless to feeling certain that everything’s happening because they should and that things have actually been falling into place all the time and not falling apart. I was also able to shift my internal dialogue from telling myself I was not good enough, that I couldn’t meet the demands of my life, to telling myself that nobody can ever make me feel less without my consent. I also became more assertive and protective of my needs again.

It’s definitely helpful to meditate and undergo different kinds of healings but these practices alone will not enable us to materialize the changes we want to happen. Our decisions and actions are still the key. Without them, nothing can be set to fruition. Pain lets us know that we’re doing something wrong and/or we’re holding thoughts/emotions that aren’t true/healthy for us. Therefore, it’s our responsibility to shift our attitude and be decisive in supporting our own best interests and correspondingly heal our body pains/illnesses in the process.

People · Relationships · Self

Give light by gravitating towards the light

There would be times when it’s not obvious how we could help us someone who is in need. Especially, if they’re going through something emotional and spiritual. It’s not always easy for us to know how we can support them in these kinds of challenges.

We could speak about positive things with someone who is in pain or feeling low, or talk about meditation and divine guidance with her or him. We could forward him or her links of meditation guides or inspirational videos that have personally helped us during difficult times. But if that person chooses to sink instead of soar, if she or he chooses to stay stuck in the past instead of move forward and grow, if she or he chooses darkness instead of the light, then there is nothing else we can do but to keep on gravitating towards the light as well. If need be, we have to let them go.

We cannot give light to those who need it the most by turning our back against the source of the light. We cannot lift others’s spirits up by sinking down the rabbit hole with them.

The most we can do is choose to stay faithful to the light; to keep our commitment to our own light. We must soar above and focus on the light of others, too, no matter how low they’ve let themselves sunk down.

When we keep the light on, all steady and clear for them, they’d have a better chance of finding their way into the source of light again once they’ve allowed themselves to let go of the baggage that have been weighing them down.

Heavy things have a natural tendency to sink. We don’t even have to force them to. That’s simply what we should do. Let them go and let them sink. Don’t cling to them.

People · Relationships · Self

How to be reliable without becoming an enabler

It’s always best to stay in balance. This is where your power lies. Being overly resistant to the point of being “allergic” in helping out others is also as bad as becoming a people-pleaser in which you enable weaknesses and overstepping of boundaries.

Maybe it doesn’t come to us intuitively most of the time, but people actually accept it easily when we say “No” to them. It’s just us who are feeling hesitant about it, giving it the weight that it doesn’t naturally have to begin with.

Like other habits, no matter how healthy it is, saying “No” also takes practice. We gotta be consistent despite feeling uncomfortable in the beginning.

We also have to understand that it’s not just about simply saying “No” and not accepting something. It’s also about what we are saying “Yes” to. We have to bear in mind that when we are saying “No” to one thing, we are actually saying “Yes” to something else. We just have to figure out which things we would like to say “Yes” to. Once we’re certain about them, saying “No”  becomes a lot more fulfilling, if not easier.

We also have to learn how to highlight the positive things that come with saying “No”. We have to learn how to influence others’ perspectives so they can focus on the positive changes, too, to the gains they’ll likely have, and not get hung up on the things they’ll lose. Most of the time, all that’s needed from us is enough humility to explain our side and the willingness and sensitivity to listen to theirs, too.

Generally, I believe that other people don’t intend to overstep our boundaries. However, because we don’t say “No” or we don’t step back,  they think that we agree on how things are. We don’t read minds (yet) at this point in our evolution. We better understand our responsibility to communicate with each other in the most efficient way that we can.

It’s also not gonna hurt us, if we put ourselves in a vulnerable position, explaining our limitations and our hopes to other people. People feel good when they get a chance on providing understanding and assistance to others, too. It’s in our nature. It’s a gift we all want and need. No matter what the situation may be, we are still dealing with humans who have feelings and needs similar to us.

In a nutshell, all we gotta do is get clear with what is important to us and what we can and cannot do, and do our best to reach out and speak up.

Activities · Relationships · Self

When you feel stuck, Soar Above

I’ve been muddling over a particular family issue lately. Well, the same issue has been around for decades. It was just recently that it came into the front seat again, demanding immediate attention.

I didn’t know what to change about my perspective towards it so I can move forward. I felt like I’ve tried all the ways that I thought would work.

So I meditated and this is what I got:

First and foremost, and this really comes as a warning in bright red letters: Don’t go to the bottom of things. Don’t go deep into the roots. Doing so would only lead you back to the past and all the distortions with it. There aren’t really any bottom or roots to go back to. This is just an illusion.

Your power lies only in the present. Do your very best to stay there – where you are RIGHT NOW. Don’t condemn it, don’t feel embarrassed or guilty because of it. Know and appreciate that where you are is where you should be, that the only way forward is through and not over.

Second, instead of going to the bottom, soar above. Reach for that state where your higher self is. There you would have a wider perspective. There you would find all the clarity that you need. There you would see that things are constantly falling into place. There you would find peace, love and joy that are there and always have been for all eternity. There you would feel the most comforted. There you would know the next best steps to take.