People · Relationships · Women

To a Sister

I usually think twice, thrice, four or five times before I decide to slip away or totally cut ties with someone. It’s easier said than done, I know, because in real life, categories and processes are more complicated than, let’s say, cleaning up one’s bedroom.

On the surface, there seems to be no reason for me to completely cut ties with you. We didn’t have any major misunderstanding, nobody betrayed nobody, we’re both fine actually. But I believe we have changed separately. The decisions we have recently made have put us into two different directions. Well, we could say, it always happen to friends – and it does – it doesn’t mean they should go their separate ways entirely. That is right in many instances, I believe. However, it depends on the transformations that have taken place. People could still complement each other’s lives if the transformations allow it.

I don’t want to complicate things. It will only hurt us more. Let’s just say that we’ve come to a point in our lives that we’ve become too different from each other. You have chosen a different path which comes with its own set of concerns and fulfillments. The same thing goes for me. Perhaps, we just have to admit that we can no longer complement each other. I no longer find it interesting to speak with you and you no longer agree with my opinions on most things. We just end up judging each other, which is a totally wrong thing to do between friends. We are not comrades and sisters, anymore, in many ways.

We both offered meaning and fun in each others’ lives before. Our friendship will always be a priceless thing. But in order to move on in health and in peace, we should allow the natural process of transformation and letting go to take hold of our lives and relationship. Let’s keep ourselves from resisting what IS.

We may find ourselves enlivened with each other somewhere along the road again. But for now, we just have to let go.

I will always have grateful and loving thoughts of you.


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